Going From Blame to Fame
Written by Jeff Wright on Jul. 17th 2020
We have all made mistakes and have regrets in life. Most people look at these mistakes and regrets and immediately blame other people. People tend to blame others because blame requires no effort. Laying blame is the easiest thing to do.
It's often said that an easy life leads to a tough life and that a tough life leads to comfort. I believe this is 100% true. The ease that it takes to blame will almost certainly lead us to a much tougher life down the road. Blame never solves our problems. Blame never makes us grow. Blame never satisfies our inner being. All blaming will ever do is make bad situations worse.
What is the opposite of blame? Forgiveness. Forgiveness is the ultimate Super Power we can all tap into, but few choose to. Many people get divorced, and they live the rest of their lives with animosity in the pit of their stomachs when it comes to former spouses. I know. Been there and done that. It took me 2 years of anger at my ex-wife to finally realize that this anger was accomplishing nothing. My business was stagnate and my health was slowly deteriorating. I kept living in the past, thinking of all the would‘a - could’a - should‘a scenarios and it only lead me to one thing, pouring another glass of scotch to make my pain go away. It was only when I started forgiving people and realizing that living in the past was nothing but detrimental to everything in my life was I able to get on with life. The first one I had to forgive was myself.
Self-forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you will ever give to yourself. It’s realizing that no matter what, you can’t change the past, nor can you do anything about it. What self-forgiveness does, when looked at objectively, gives you the chance to learn from your mistakes so that you don’t make them again. It keeps the monkey off your back, the guilt and shame that you can’t fix anyway, and allows you the freedom to look forward into the future. If you look at yourself with brutal honesty and be objective about it, you will almost always find even greater opportunities than you had lost. I know I did.
Once you master self-forgiveness, forgiving your former spouse and all the others who you feel have wronged you in the past becomes a whole lot easier. Forgiving others is almost never for their benefit, but more for yours. It’s the act of saying to someone that you are so not cool with what they did, but you are no longer allowing them to live in your head. They have no power in your life whatsoever. They can no longer be a part of your thought processes or actions. Forgiveness gives you freedom, and free people are very dangerous! Take the act of forgiveness to yourself and everyone else in your life. You WILL turn your Blame into Fame.
It's often said that an easy life leads to a tough life and that a tough life leads to comfort. I believe this is 100% true. The ease that it takes to blame will almost certainly lead us to a much tougher life down the road. Blame never solves our problems. Blame never makes us grow. Blame never satisfies our inner being. All blaming will ever do is make bad situations worse.
What is the opposite of blame? Forgiveness. Forgiveness is the ultimate Super Power we can all tap into, but few choose to. Many people get divorced, and they live the rest of their lives with animosity in the pit of their stomachs when it comes to former spouses. I know. Been there and done that. It took me 2 years of anger at my ex-wife to finally realize that this anger was accomplishing nothing. My business was stagnate and my health was slowly deteriorating. I kept living in the past, thinking of all the would‘a - could’a - should‘a scenarios and it only lead me to one thing, pouring another glass of scotch to make my pain go away. It was only when I started forgiving people and realizing that living in the past was nothing but detrimental to everything in my life was I able to get on with life. The first one I had to forgive was myself.
Self-forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you will ever give to yourself. It’s realizing that no matter what, you can’t change the past, nor can you do anything about it. What self-forgiveness does, when looked at objectively, gives you the chance to learn from your mistakes so that you don’t make them again. It keeps the monkey off your back, the guilt and shame that you can’t fix anyway, and allows you the freedom to look forward into the future. If you look at yourself with brutal honesty and be objective about it, you will almost always find even greater opportunities than you had lost. I know I did.
Once you master self-forgiveness, forgiving your former spouse and all the others who you feel have wronged you in the past becomes a whole lot easier. Forgiving others is almost never for their benefit, but more for yours. It’s the act of saying to someone that you are so not cool with what they did, but you are no longer allowing them to live in your head. They have no power in your life whatsoever. They can no longer be a part of your thought processes or actions. Forgiveness gives you freedom, and free people are very dangerous! Take the act of forgiveness to yourself and everyone else in your life. You WILL turn your Blame into Fame.
Jeff Wright
I help divorced parents with unique life insurance solutions for alimony and child support agreements.
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